I was recently talking with a single mum who shared with me a tool she had found really helpful during her separation. She called it her angry book. Her angry book was a form of expressive writing, or writing therapy. Here’s a few ways expressive writing can help you through a separation.
Lawyers are expensive. Most charge by the hour. So time, is literally money. But how can you reduce your legal bill without jeopardising your case. Here are a few ideas.
The 10th of October is World Mental Health Day. This year, the campaign in Australia invites people to make (and share) a mental health promise. Inspired by one of the many prompts shared in the campaign, my mental health promise is to share ideas about mental well-being. With that in mind, here are a few ideas of how to support your mental health during a separation.
Finding the "right" way to talk to your kids about separation and divorce is a common worry for parents. Books are a great tool to open up conversations about hard topics. "When your parents divorce" by Kimberly King is a perfect example of a book which helps kids understand a little more about what is going on and also encourages them to express their feelings.
The divorce lawyer you choose work with, will have big impact on the legal process and outcome. Your lawyer’s skill is important, but it shouldn’t be the only consideration. If you hire the wrong lawyer for you, the relationship might end up adding to your stress rather than relieving it. Here are a few things to consider when choosing your lawyer.
Practising gratitude helps in lots of ways. It helps you to focusing on what you do have. It helps you see the positives in your day and life. It helps you feel better. It’s proven. On some particularly trying days it might just be feeling grateful to have the day over. Other days it might be a something funny one of your kids said or a barista who made you a particularly good coffee. It can be anything. Anything, big or small which you feel grateful for.
You’ve just read a horrible letter from your ex’s lawyer, received a mean spirited text from your ex mother-in-law, the child support payment you were relying on to pay this week’s bills didn’t arrive and your kids are arguing over who gets to pull apart the contents of your wallet.
Breaking up with your partner, might also mean breaking up with some of your friends.
You expect your friends will rally around you. A thoughtful text. A sympathetic ear. A drinking buddy. A surprise care package of wine and chocolate.