5 ways to practice gratitude during a break-up

Practising gratitude helps in lots of ways.  It helps you to focusing on what you do have.  It helps you see the positives in your day and life.  It helps you feel better.  It’s proven.  On some particularly trying days it might just be feeling grateful to have the day over.  Other days it might be a something funny one of your kids said or a barista who made you a particularly good coffee.  It can be anything.  Anything, big or small which you feel grateful for.

Here are a few ways for time poor mums, to practice gratitude.  These are also beautiful ideas to share with your kids.

Create a Gratitude Jar.  Find an old glass jar.  Get all Mister Maker and make it look pretty.  Label it.  Then every day write on a small piece of paper something you feel grateful for.  On days when you are feeling less than your best self, dig a few out to remind yourself of all you have in your life.

Start a Gratitude Meditation practice.  The focus of the mediation practice is what you have in your life that you are grateful for – whether that be friends, family, health or aspects of your life circumstance.  If you are new to meditation, there are so many incredible apps (one of my favourites at the moment is Insight Timer which is free) available with guided gratitude mediations or a quick google search will produce plenty of options.

Think of three things you are grateful for.  This practice is the one I have done daily for a few years.  I have also recently started with my 4 year old and it’s become one of the highlights of my day to hear him share what has made him happy that day.  It is as simple as either thinking of three things you are grateful for.  I typically do it at the end of the day, just before sleep, but there is no reason you couldn’t do it at any time.  You can say it silently in your head, or if you are sharing it with someone obviously you can share it aloud.

Write a letter of gratitude.  The lost art of letter writing.  My letterbox is more often than not empty.  A big change from when I was little.   I have such fond memories of checking the mailbox at home as a kid and the delight of receiving a handwritten letter or card.  Our kids may never know what a pen pal is, or communicate by letters in a world where email and texting are the norm.  It makes me a nostalgic and a little sad.  That said, there is something still beautiful, and almost more beautiful now about receiving a letter given it is so rare.  This practice involves penning a letter to someone who you feel grateful to have in your life, sharing with them what you mean to them.  It’s such a lovely practice, because not only do you have the opportunity to reflect on why you are grateful for this person, but they get the joy of receiving your letter.

Say Thank you.  Take the time to recognise and appreciate the people who are there for you.  It doesn’t have to be elaborate.  A heartfelt thank you goes a long way.

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